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Written by Roger Ali Bocus
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Sunday, 06 May 2007 |
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Word Count: 633 How To Attract & Win Someone's HeartLOVE IS UNDERSTANDING
Steve and Joan (husband and wife) were both on their way home from church after
a Sunday morning service, when Joan upon seeing one of her male fellow employees
– waved to him. This simple acknowledgement however, incited an unfavorable
response from her husband, Steve.
“Don’t you ever do that again, eh!” Steve annoyingly said.
“Don’t do what?” Joan innocently rejoined.
“Don’t you ever wave again to any man while I am in this car, eh!”
Oh boy! As you can well imagine, this conversation was followed with anger,
argument and a pin-drop silence.
Doesn’t this sound like a familiar scene to you?
Hey! Before you were married, both you and your wife had male/female friends. To
expect each other to have to give up, or not relate to almost all friends of the
opposite sex is: Totally unreasonable, unrealistic and immature.
Isn’t it about time we grow up?
Jealously my friend is evidence of insecurity – Fear of losing someone whom you
claim to love – To another.
Jealously shuts the door in the face of ‘Intimacy’. It will encourage your loved
one to feel afraid to share everything with you, because if they were to share
certain things with you – You would respond with anger and jealously.
There is no need for you to be constantly checking up on your partner, every
hour on the hour.
So you have made a call at home or at work, and the phone is either busy or
keeps on ringing unanswered. Immediately all sorts of crazy thoughts begin to
race through the insecure mind. Especially, if you have been calling every five
minutes for half an hour straight and the line is busy still.
When you get through to the person now, you begin to pose to the individual
subtle questions of insecurity under the guise of genuine concern - Trying to
find out who they were with on the phone for so long.
Distraught over who she might be speaking to or socializing with, when you are
not around – Uncertain about the unknown. Feeling threatened by every male
friend she may speak cordially to.
Who do you think you are fooling? With whom do you believe the problem really
lies?
Man, know thyself!
Do you feel that by keeping tabs on your wife like this (isolating her also from
her friends and family) – You can keep her all to yourself? Then you are wrong,
sir. You will cause her to become more emotionally distant from you – Eventually
losing her.
Living like this is a real mental torment. Relax, and learn to exercise TRUST.
It’s practically impossible for you to watch someone for 24 hrs. straight:
Everyday.
If you have been treating your partner exceptionally good, then there is no need
for you to worry about him/her being unfaithful to you.
Love does not worry: Love Trusts.
Insecurity promotes domination, selfishness, manipulation, possessiveness and
control.
Sir, don’t you know that relationships are like eggs – very fragile. If you try
to hold on to it too tightly, you can crush it – Destroy it.
The gentle touch is what it takes, with just enough hold to keep and protect it.
Some years ago, I remember, there was a particular husband who was so insecure
that he would be secretly going through his wife’s purse and mails. Literally
questioning her every phone call – Suspicious of her every move. This guy was
paranoid with insecurity.
Sir/Madam, if any of this behavior falls in your garden: Seek Help!
Anyone would want to run away from a person like this.
Exercise Trust
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