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Written by Todd Peterson
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Thursday, 28 September 2006 |
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Word Count: 584 Flirting Tips for Guys
By and large, guys are pretty bad when it comes to flirting. It's time you
learn a few of the basics, so that you can get an edge over the competition.
These flirting tips will have you headed in the right direction in no time.
Physical & Verbal cues
1) Posture and Positioning
Your posture communicates everything. You need to arch your back and stick out
your chest. Take up space. If you're talking to a girl, stand no more than two
feet away. Don't necessarily encroach her space, but stand just a little closer
than you might ordinarily.
Maintain an open body position at all times. Never cross your arms or put your
hands in your pockets. If you want to test her to see if she's into you, step
back a foot and see if she follows. If she does come closer, it's a good sign.
2) Eyes
The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. Use your eyes to give off
powerful stares of desire. It's possible to make a girl's heart skip a beat by
giving her a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. If you're walking by a girl
you've got the hots for, give her a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away
(slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. She'll get the
message.
3) Touch
It's OK to lightly touch her shoulder or arm when you're talking to her. But be
careful. Guys have to walk a fine line when it comes to touch. Don't go
overboard or you'll freak the girl out.
4) Be aggressive
Women love guys who aren't scared to go after what they want. When you show no
fear in your pursuit, you come across looking like a confident man. Don't be
scared to compliment a girl...tell her what you think. If she's looking extra
nice, go ahead and tell her. Not only will it make her day...she'll immediately
realize that you want her.
5) What you should say
To be completely honest, if you're sending out all the right body language, it
doesn't matter what you say. Keep the conversation light, nothing serious or
in-depth. Bear in mind, though, that it's always best to focus on charming her
and being complimentary about her looks. You can also be flattering by telling
her how well she did on an oral report or test, a good game, etc. You can even
tease her playfully. Just be sure to send out all the other body signals while
you're talking.
Mental cues
1) Exude confidence and self-assuredness
It's crucial that you present yourself as a person who feels in control of the
situation and isn't nervous. Put on a show of confidence...girls love guys who
are secure. Remember, a confident and secure person is a major turn on. This is
why girls are always falling for cocky jerks. Exhibiting insecurity and fear is
something you should avoid at all costs. This means no...stammering, fidgeting,
wandering eyes (off into the distance), wavering voice, etc.
2) Radiate happiness, enthusiasm, & excitement
You've got to be full of energy and in a positive mind frame to be an effective
flirt. If you're kicking out good vibes, your target will pick up on it and rise
to your level.
Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community HighWorld.com
To read other romance articles written by Todd, visit:
http://www.highworld.com/romance/index.php
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